In the February, the month of romance, it is disheartening to read the results of a study newly released by Match.com. Most of today’s singles in the United States are not actively seeking a relationship, according to the study. Romance is not high on their list of priorities.
Binghamton University developed the study and conducted it for Match.com. About “40% of respondents 21 years and older are not sure they want to get married, 27% said a wedding is not in their future, and just 34.5% said marriage was a must.”
Sociologist Michael Rosenfeld of Stanford University said the results were not surprising. He told USA Today that marriage has been on the decline for more than 35 years.
“It is true that researchers used to find that people who hadn’t gotten married still had aspirations to get married, but I think that may be eroding now. A new generation has grown up in a world where marriage is not a certainty. If they’re 20 years into adult relationships and haven’t found somebody they want to marry, maybe they’ve changed their minds about how necessary marriage is.”
Single people in the study were not concerned about flying solo. Fewer than 12.7% of them are actively seeking a relationship and 15% prefer to stay unattached. What’s more surprising is that the trend is not limited to single people in their twenties. Singles older than sixty tend to be the most fickle about marriage, because they want a partnership that includes sexual attraction as well as romance.
I knew that sexual attraction was very possible without romance, but I am perplexed that sixty-year-olds think that romance is possible without sexual attraction. Seems a little like a carriage without a horse to me.