Right or wrong, it was within Anne’s character at that time to accept advice, particularly from Lady Russell. However, nineteen was certainly not too young to marry, especially during that time period, and in my opinion, she should have followed her own inclination. She truly loved Wentworth, but she put Lady Russell’s judgment above her own; she considered Lady Russell’s feelings more than she did Wentworth’s. While it was certainly reasonable for Anne to listen to the person who had taken her mother’s place in her heart, it was not wise. Consider that Anne had never been truly appreciated by her family. Wentworth acknowledged her fine qualities; he loved her when her own family did not.
Actually, I fault Lady Russell more than Anne, her father, or anyone else. Lady Russell used her influence to separate Anne from the only man she would ever love. Her advice cost Anne dearly and could have ruined her life had Anne not been given a second chance to prove her mettle. I find it interesting that even Lady Russell began to realize her error by the time Anne was twenty-two. An alliance with Charles Musgrove, which would have been beneath Anne at nineteen in Lady Russell’s opinion, was actually desired by the Lady after she had seen Anne’s bloom diminished by three years of pining for Wentworth.
Time for you to weigh in. Agree or disagree?