Tag Archives: Meryl Streep

Think before you post that pic.

I know famous people, and I'm one of them!

I know famous people, and I’m one of them!

“Increased frequency of sharing photographs of the self, regardless of the type of target sharing the photographs, is related to a decrease in intimacy,” says a study conducted jointly by the University of Birmingham, the University of Edinburgh, and Heriot-Watt University.

Don't mess with my baby girl. She knows Samuel L. Jackson.

Don’t mess with my baby girl. She knows
Samuel L. Jackson.

These folks could have saved themselves a bundle of money by simply asking regular Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram users what they think of a flood of “selfies.” I don’t have Instagram, but I can look a the pictures on it, so I have formed an (ahem!) opinion. Many people who constantly share pictures of themselves tend to have fewer deep friendships and more shallow relationships. They are living their lives through the social media without much personal contact with other people.

However, if you already have a relationship with the people viewing the “selfies,” you probably won’t irritate them into blocking you or “unfriending” you. Some of your friends will even like keeping up with you in that way.

I have observed that there are several types of “selfies.” Some are funny and quirky, and I like those.

Patrick Stewart and I are best buds. He's the best "Star Trek" captain, hands down.

Patrick Stewart and I are best buds. He’s the premier “Star Trek” captain, hands down.

Some are taken to prove the person met a famous person. I get it.

Just don't tell Nancy about this.

Just don’t tell Nancy about this.

If I met Colin Firth, and he agreed to a picture with me, I would jump at the chance.

Others border on the pornographic; somebody’s mom and dad need to monitor their children before a pedophile finds them.

Then, there are those shots in the bathroom mirror right after a girl gets ready for a night out. She’s looking good, and she wants everyone to know it.

Here’s a free clue: Don’t take pictures of yourself in the bathroom – ever.

My least favorites of the “selfies,” which are by far the most numerous, are the “I have my shirt off to show you my ripped abs, my ‘assets,’ or my new tattoo” varieties. Just hashtag it #yesiamnarcissistic.

Tell me that's not Bruce Willis in a Hawaiian shirt. At least he has his shirt on.

Tell me that’s not Bruce Willis in a Hawaiian shirt. At least he has his shirt on.

Another thing to think about before you post that pic – nothing ever really disappears from the internet, and it could come back to bite you. People have lost their jobs over posts. Stalking is at an all-time high, and it’s easy. Google your own name and see what comes up. Scary stuff.

And, yes, I did meet Patrick Stewart and Ronald Reagan.


Pride, Prejudice, Pain, and Sensibility

For many years, the United States has been the world’s fattest developed nation. However, according to a new report from the United Nations Food and Agricultural Organization, we have lost this dubious distinction to Mexico. Nearly a third of Mexico’s adults (32.8 percent) are obese, which is defined as people 20 years old and older whose body mass index (BMI) is 30 and above. In the United States, 31.8 percent of American adults are considered obese.

Syria (31.6 percent) is third, and Venezuela and Libya are tied for fourth at 30.8 percent. About 12 percent of the world’s total population is now obese. The world’s fattest nation overall is Nauru, a South Pacific island where 71.1 percent of its 10,000 inhabitants are obese. American Samoa is left out of the U.N. report, but acccording to a 2010 World Health Organization report, nearly all of that country’s inhabitants (95 percent) are overweight.

Dustin Hoffman as Tootsie

Dustin Hoffman as Tootsie

I haven’t suddenly become the nation’s fat police – far from it – but I do think it’s interesting to hear Dustin Hoffman’s thoughts about how women feel and relate those feelings to obesity. Our culture clearly worships youth and beauty, and to be considered beautiful, one must be thin. Since nearly one third of us are not in that category, we have an epidemic of women who think they’re ugly. Hoffman’s tears that he was as beautiful as he could be made to be in the film Tootsie speak to that ugly inner me. I have been told many times that I am beautiful, but I have never believed it, because I don’t look like the models in the magazines or the actresses on television. I confess that I hate having my picture made now, and I don’t like my older reflection in the mirror. For the first time in my life, I find myself wishing I were young again – thin and beautiful. My daughters are beautiful, but I hear them turn aside compliments the same way I have for many years. They don’t think they’re beautiful either. I guess we have to see the beauty ourselves before we believe what anyone else says.

Meryl Streep in Sophie's Choice

Meryl Streep in Sophie’s Choice

When Sophie’s Choice came out in 1982, actress Meryl Streep said that she wished she was beautiful. She felt that she was not lovely enough to do her character the justice she deserved. Streep won an Oscar for that film, but at the end of the day, it wasn’t fully satisfying. She didn’t meet the modern criteria for a high standard of beauty.

I don’t expect any radical changes in the way our culture views beauty, but I think that’s a sad statement and a judgment concerning what we value. We place importance on what is not truly important, and many times, we ignore what is valuable.